February 17th, 2011

poly

Apparently my relationships do not actually exist.

GRRRRRRRRR. Someone on a Sims 3 forum has just told me that you can only have one steady relationship at a time in real life.

A person requested a mod for: "Polyamory including multiple boyfriend/girlfriend --> spouses."

The modder explained that he wouldn't write such a mod because in order to do so, you have to corrupt the relationship data, since in Sims 3 EAxis have decided that you can only set the "Steady" flag between pairs of sims.

I wrote: "Bah! Bloody EAxis. Why did they have to change the perfectly good Sims 2 code, where you could have multiple Boyfriends/Girlfriends but only one Husband/Wife? That's the same as it is in real life. Whereas the current thing where you can only have one Boyfriend/Girlfriend at a time is just unrealistic! *GRUMBLE*"

The person who has upset me wrote: "Um, in real life you can have only one steady, if you are that type of person."

I wrote: "Thank you for telling me that my relationships do not exist >:(. I have a boyfriend called Richard who I've been with for 13 years, and a girlfriend called Alexa who I've been with for 9 years. As far as I'm aware, relationships that have been going on for 9 years plus are pretty damn steady.

You can only have one legal husband or wife. You can have as many steady partners as you want, as long as everyone consents. You can even call more than one a "husband" or "wife" and have a commitment ceremony to prove that, as long as you are only legally married to one at a time.

Seeing as someone even used the word polyamory in their request for a mod, it shouldn't be surprising to learn that some people in the Sims community do that in real life too.

Actually upset now :(."

How dare he say that a person can only have one steady relationship at a time! Edit: Update
goggles

"Hooray" for bodies :S

The past week has been generally quite wretched. I went to the doctor, and realised that my current level of chronic fatigue is (a) way beyond normal for me, (b) impossible to coexist with trying to do a degree. So I have been talking to my Department about applying for a Break in Studies. Which, by the way, SUCKS. I want to be healthy (or at least, within the range of "normal for me") and getting on with my work! I don't want to be at home, too ill to work, basically housebound, with nothing to do except play Sims 3!

I had some blood tests done but not all the results are back yet, and the doctor isn't going to look at them until they are. I'm hoping this will be tomorrow. I am also hoping that something obviously wrong and easy to treat will show up, since I'm bored rigid with being ill.

I need help to walk to the doctor and back. This is a round trip of 0.6 miles. And then I am in pain for the rest of the day. Yay. I'm thinking about renting a wheelchair or electric scooter so I can actually DO THINGS at the weekend. The inside of my house (and specifically my bedroom) is really not a very exciting place :(