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Apparently my relationships do not actually exist.
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baratron From: baratron Date: 17th February 2011 14:33 (UTC) (Link)

Update, following apology

Yeah, I feel pretty stupid since someone pointed out that you probably meant "in real life you can have only one steady, if you are the type of person who can have only one steady relationship at a time". Which a lot of people, even in the non-monogamous world do. They have one long-term/live-in partner who is a spouse or spousal equivalent, and then they have hot monkey sex with other people.

Indeed, I had a horrible experience along those lines with a partner's partner some years ago :(. He and I were both going for polyamory as meaning "multiple loving relationships at the same time", and she had the definition in her head of "one serious relationship and then sexual friendships with others". As we were using the same word, I assumed that we were also using the same meaning. It was pretty nasty, since I generally make a habit of getting on well with my partners' other partners, and she wanted nothing to do with me.

Even a statement like "In real life most people only have one steady" wouldn't have bothered me, since it's true.

It just bothers me that they changed the names for Sims 3 because, to me, "Romantic Interest" doesn't convey the same depth of feeling. It's like someone that you're thinking about dating, rather than someone with whom you're in a committed relationship. I don't quite know why they even moved the "Steady" flag into adult relationships - in Sims 2, it was only for teen relationships. So having one Boyfriend/Girlfriend and then N Romantic Interests just doesn't mean the same to me.

Here's an interesting nuance for a modder. Is it possible to set someone as a Boyfriend/Girlfriend without setting the steady flag? If that's the thing that corrupts the data.
redbird From: redbird Date: 17th February 2011 18:02 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Update, following apology

I still think that "in real life you can only do x, if you're the kind of person who only does x" isn't a good reason to make code that assumes that everyone is that kind of person. There are lots of things that most people do in real life, and that many of them think everyone should do. That doesn't mean it's good coding to assume that everyone over a certain age drives a car, either.
jinian From: jinian Date: 17th February 2011 18:43 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Update, following apology

baratron From: baratron Date: 17th February 2011 20:24 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Update, following apology

In general, it seems like they've been trying to reduce the feeble amount of adult content in The Sims series down to zero. They took out the hug with bottom rubbing, and the dry humping animations that were in Sims 2! I don't need dry humping, but the hug with bottom rubbing was adorable, and I miss it!

Presumably, having more than one relationship at the same time is "adult" too :P

Edited at 2011-02-17 20:24 (UTC)
keldaryth From: keldaryth Date: 18th February 2011 04:46 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Update, following apology

I nearly pointed that out and yes, it seems like a bit of circular reasoning.

"You can only do x, if you're a person who does x" is like, "You can only have one religion if you're a person who only believes in having one religion" or "You can eat only vegetables (no meat) if you're a person who believes in eating only vegetables (no meat)".

It's sort of a stupid argument. You could easily turn around and say "You can only have more than one steady in real life if you're a person who believes in having more than one steady in real life..."
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